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Post by Mr. Malloy on Apr 8, 2020 16:05:01 GMT
In Chapters 15 and 16, Amir makes the journey back to Afghanistan, where he reunites with his father’s friend and former business associate Rahim Khan. Amir also begins to learn more about Hassan… things that were hidden from him his entire life. In one (1) paragraph, respond to the following questions with your own opinions; be prepared to discuss next class:
*Should people keep secrets? Big secrets? Small secrets?
*Do secrets ultimately destroy you over time?
*Can we privately manage, inside of our own minds, the things we are not proud of?
*Why do we care so much about telling one another the truth, the whole truth?
HW: Read Chapters 15 and 16!!!
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Post by Jaidyn Perez on Apr 8, 2020 19:43:08 GMT
Secrets are no good for the person keeping them or the person the secret is getting hid from. I think no matter what the secret is people shouldn't hide them. Even in the situation when you're trying to protect the person it turns out bad. It hurts less if you tell them yourself rather lie or keep a secret and them find out later on from someone else. Secrets also can deteriorate someone. No secret can be kept in without destroying you. In our own minds I think we're able to sort out our good and bad moments. I'm able to look back and see what I am and am not proud of. Telling one another the truth creates a trust amongst people. When telling the truth I think the whole truth is part of it. If you're already telling the truth might as well let it all out because every part is essential. Also in a case in which someone finds out you didn't tell the whole truth, the truth that you did tell is insignificant.
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Post by Evan Wheeler Block: 2 on Apr 9, 2020 12:00:03 GMT
Secrets are important. If everyone knew the full and complete truth all the time it would destroy any bit of bond we have with eachother. Without secrets there is no trust. Secrets overtime can begin to eat you alive depending on the size and quantity. Similar to how guilt can do the same. But it is important that we understand that these things are part of us just as an arm or a leg is, and we need to stick by it and try our best to manage them in order to be the best person we can be.
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Post by Liam B.A.S on Apr 9, 2020 14:18:43 GMT
Small secrets shouldn't be kept, but it's harder to say you should/shouldn't keep big secrets. Secrets when severe will slowly destroy over time for holding it in, especially if it's something that people you're keeping it from should know. Even if the secret isn't something heavy, it still puts a weight on you to just keep it from people. One the thought of trying to manage what we're not proud of in our minds it's a risky thing to do. While one could try, absorbing and keeping negative thoughts in ones mind usually shifts to that person being drained of energy and having nothing but negative feelings. We care about telling people the full truth because people are unpredictable when it comes to how they take and process the full truth. We care about what people think of us and shift the truth in ways that won't make it hell to tell, and hell to talk about afterwards.
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Post by Halie Goodsell on Apr 9, 2020 14:22:05 GMT
Secrets do hurt some people when they are kept but I think people should be able to keep secrets because secrets do not always hurt people. If it is something you should tell the person that you are keeping it from then you should tell them, no matter big or small you should choose whether you keep a secret or not. Also we have free speech so we should have the freedom whether to speak or not as well. Depending what the secrets are and who is involved, yes I think secrets can destroy you over time. Yes but sometimes we need more than ourselves to manage. But not everyone needs someone to help them through the things they are not proud of. We care so much about the truth because honesty is a good and important trait in a person. You do not wanna be around someone who is not telling you the truth about things, you want someone who is honest and real with you.
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Post by Skyy Bertelsen on Apr 9, 2020 14:34:00 GMT
They are secrets, they are meant to be kept, however, there are some that should definitely be told/spill the beans, like this: "https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6585595/Thousands-dads-left-shock-DIY-paternity-tests-soar.html" Keeping certain secrets definitely can corrode you, or a unhealthy fixation on it can be created within your mind. I think that we can manage what we find private/not proud of inside our minds, there have been pedophiles, serial killers, etc who have lived years after their "deeds" with their family, Im not saying we are those people, but obviously it can be managed. Because truth is an absolute, and the truth is the "full story" and lets you fully come clean.
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Post by Julian Coffman on Apr 9, 2020 14:36:22 GMT
In certain situations secrets can be either bad or good, meaning that the person who is lying knows the situation and the person whom they are lying to.If it is person you care about and want to be open with then not matter the situation you should reveal the truth but if it is a person you dont know or hardly know then you dont owe them the truth that is your decision that you will live with for the rest of your life so you can choose to be happy or sad with that choice.Different people have their own ways of coping with things that they have done in their past for example some might do whatever they can to get away from the person or the subject that caused them internal conflict in the first place,and others might be happy with the choice they made and just go on with their life.What would the point be of telling a half truth when you are just telling another lie by not telling them the other half of the truth.
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Post by Jesus Ballesteros on Apr 9, 2020 14:36:46 GMT
I think that it's important for people to keep some kind of secrets. It's what makes us, us. Things we only know and decide whether or not we want to share. It gives us a sense of power. Eventually I do believe secrets can destroy you, but only if they're huge secrets. No one in the world is going to break down crying because they saw someone picking their nose, but if they saw something traumatizing, I can't imagine what'd it'd be like to have to live with that. In my experience no, It's better to get those kinds of thoughts and emotions out. It doesn't have to be to a huge group of people either. Just having one trusted individual who you share your problems with can help so much. It makes us real. It makes us genuine. We're only honest to the ones we care about so being honest comes with a sense of love and caregiving. With honesty also comes trust and trust is the biggest form of love there is.
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Post by Lakoda Sherry on Apr 9, 2020 14:39:03 GMT
I think that small secrets are easy and sometimes needed if its not a huge deal, for example if someone was throwing a party for you and you had to keep it a secret. Big secrets are the ones that could change a person's life or you could be letting that person live a lie without telling them. I think that bigger secrets like that, that are life changing to a persons life should not be kept and should be told to that person. It might hurt the person by telling them this but personally I would want to know even if it hurt me, so I would know what the situation was. If you are the one keeping the secret and its a very big one, I think t can start to eat you up inside if it negatively impacts the other person your keeping it from. I think you can privately manage your not so good deeds to an extent, but i think in the end you might need help even if you don't want to admit it. I think that people are most afraid of hurting the other ones feelings, and by protecting them they don't tell them the whole truth. Because if you really care for this person you do not like when they are down or upset about anything so you hide the bad parts.
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Post by Binit Pradhan on Apr 9, 2020 14:46:16 GMT
I think some secrets are not meant to be shared to people because some secrets are deep and hurtful. Secrets could hurt you overtime, specifically if you haven't talk to anyone about it and take it all in. I mean you can privately manage things you are not proud of inside your mind but its best if you talk to someone about it. We care so much about the truth because in general you should be honest . For example- say you lied to someone and in the future they found out the truth, the person you lied to wont't look or respect you the same.
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Post by Catie Heitz on Apr 9, 2020 15:24:40 GMT
I have always been a firm believer of always telling the truth. Keeping a secret, even if you think you are protecting someone, usually turns out bad. It makes the situation worse because not only did something happen that would make the other person or people unhappy, but you hid it from them, breaking trust between friends. I think secrets do destroy a person over time. Knowing the truth about something and watching someone believe something else is hard. If a secret goes on too long there seems to be no hope of a chance to tell the truth, making it harder and harder to come clean. someone that has no intention of sharing the secret will live in the fact that they have to always be careful what they say. that would be hard to deal with. As far as managing things we aren't proud of on our own, I would say it really depends on what it was. something small? Yes. something big however, one could need outside help dealing with it but then you couldn't keep it a secret. telling the truth keeps trust between people and we don't want to let each other down. we feel better as people when we are honest.
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Post by Dj Simental on Apr 9, 2020 15:40:06 GMT
i think keeping secrets are dumb because i would wanna know what you said and if you wold be my" so called friend" you wouldnt keep a secret behind my back. secrets destroy friendships. yes we can manage what happens in our minds sometimes but, there are times we all let our mind go free for a second to see.. i can manage and say im not proud of the bad things ive done but everything happpend for a reason. we care so much about telling someone the truth because its always best just to open up. like i got told sometimes the truth hurts but it will be better to hurt them now then them finding out later and hurting even more.
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Post by Elijah Borjas on Apr 9, 2020 15:44:24 GMT
I think that we should keep big secrets. little secrets i don't think matter as much because if you tell the secret nothing will change a lot. i think that secrets do destroy you overtime because you know something that everyone else doesn't know so you feel power and don't now how to handle it so you have to tell someone or do something about it. yes, i do think we can privately manage this depending on what it is. for example, if you are not proud of not doing enough in your working you will work harder next time because you feel guilty. but if it is something more major then it is harder to deal with. We care so much about this because people are so fake and now everyone has trust issues because if you tell someone something chance are they will tell someone else. and people don't want that so they are afraid to tell the whole truth.also people want things to go their way.
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Post by Daniel Broce on Apr 9, 2020 15:49:27 GMT
Secrets should sometimes be kept if someone is not ready for the truth yet.I think whether it be a small or a big secret it doesn't matter if someone cant handle it then keep it a secret.Secrets can definitely destroy you overtime because its hard to keep a secret especially if its about someone else so not telling can destroy you inside.I think we already do manage the things in our mind,the ones were not proud of,I can say I have many secrets of things im not proud of but and people Ive hurt but yet in my mind Im really not proud of it,so yes your mind privately manages things your not proud of and it eats you up inside.We care so much about telling someone the whole truth because being the only one who knows messes with your mind and your mind just wants to tell someone the truth.
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Post by Bryce Wylie on Apr 9, 2020 15:53:48 GMT
I think secrets are how we show who is important in our lives, and I think some secrets are meant to be kept. Secrets can sometimes build up relationships, if its the right person. If someone you know tells you a very important secret, that goes to show that you have trust in each other. It shows that you are comfortable around that person enough that you would tell that secret. I also think some secrets are meant to be kept. For example, if a child is about to pass away from sickness, but they don´t know it, I think that would be an ok secret to keep. You arent keeping the secret to hurt them, you are keeping it so they wont be scared. Also if new parents don´t want to know the gender of their baby until it is born, that is an acceptable secret to be kept. But most secrets are not like this, most secrets should be shared and are not healthy to keep bottled up.
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