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Post by MakiCh on Apr 9, 2020 21:50:40 GMT
People should not keep big secrets. Secrets with the time became to destroy you, because when something worry you a lot, affects your exterior and you have not peace is the guilty feeling. I think we could not manage the things we are not proud of, we always need to vent to "clean" our awareness. We are always care about telling one another the truth because we are care about the people reaction and also the change of perspective that people could have of us.
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Post by Aaron Thome on Apr 9, 2020 23:05:08 GMT
I think that if anyone were to sit here and say secrets are 100% bad, they would likely be a hypocrite. Secrets serve functions whether we are willing to admit that or not, and having secrets is not necessarily bad if they are not kept for malicious reasons. However, I would argue that secrets that never have the intention of being shared publicly tend to be the malicious secrets that cause harm, and are not ok. We do have the ability to manage things we are not proud of, but, as humans, we have a tendency to try and forget and bury unpleasant topics if we never have to confront them. We may beat ourselves up over certain things that won't leave our heads, but we also may run away from things that hurt us but are not important to confront.
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Post by Jackson Horton on Apr 10, 2020 0:09:44 GMT
If you have a secret I think that you should always keep it if you say you will within reason. I think there are certain things that should not be kept secret if you and those around you would be generally better off with said information revealed to others. With enough secrets on your mind I do generally believe that youll drive yourself nuts because you may get to a point where you feel as if you cant hardly talk to anyone anymore because you know so much and cannot reveal half of the things you think about to anyone. I think that anyone can manage the things they arent proud of with enough thought and willingness to forgive ourselves and move on with our lives despite what we may have doe wrong. It also makes it much easier if we work on trying to make up for whatever we did wrong. Telling the truth feels good, it allows us to feel a connection to those who we are speaking to and it also alleviates the weight of lying and feeling as if we are not trustworthy.
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Post by Lexx Lauderdale on Apr 10, 2020 4:28:12 GMT
Secrets are Very important to some people. If everyone knew the truth no one would have any privacy and some people have very dark secrets. Without secrets there is no trust. Secrets overtime can begin to eat you alive depending on the size and quantity. Similar to how guilt can do the same. But it is important that we understand that these things are part of us just as an arm or a leg is, and we need to stick by it and try our best to manage them in order to be the best person we can be.
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Post by Annie Alfonso on Apr 10, 2020 5:35:31 GMT
I think it depends on the situation. If you and your friend are telling each other things about your life and just want to keep it between the two of you, that is okay. But if you are keeping a big secret that could impact one or multiple people, then it is not the best thing to keep a secret. I don't think they destroy you but I think hey can mess with you a little, if it is small enough, it probably won't destroy you. I think it is possible but it isn't right to manage things we aren't proud of inside our own mind. Talking to at least one person that you really trust can help take some of the weight off your shoulders. We care about telling each other the truth so much because honesty is a big factor in a lot of things like a friendship, relationship, etc. It means a lot to someone when you are fully honest with them and don't hide things.
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Post by Francis Kernan on Apr 10, 2020 13:30:51 GMT
*Should people keep secrets? Big secrets? Small secrets? *Do secrets ultimately destroy you over time? *Can we privately manage, inside of our own minds, the things we are not proud of? *Why do we care so much about telling one another the truth, the whole truth?
In a perfect world ideally, there would be no secrets to keep and honesty would be a norm. But unfortunately, in our world, determining if honesty is truly the best policy is a constant moral battle. It is hard to say that keeping a secret falls on either side of the fence between right or wrong without a perfectly valid claim being made proven the opposite, rather it is more of a gray area. One that must be taken on a case by case basis rather than answered as a whole. For example, a smaller secret could be simply an embarrassing moment that a person would rather not share, would be a perfectly valid secret to keep and that person should be entitled to that privacy. Larger secrets like not telling a child a pet had died are also viewed as morally correct lies to tell. However other secrets have the potential to ruin relationships. The truth has a tendency to reveal itself and when it does, the larger the lie the more damage done to the trust between two people. Our desire both hide the truth at times as well as our persistent quest for the truth comes down to a battle between trust and morality.
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Post by Matthew Rivera on Apr 10, 2020 18:48:30 GMT
I believe people should be able to keep secrets big or small. I do believe that secrets can destroy you over time but that would be the persons choose if they would want to live like that . Yes there is many ways we can maintain our self from the bad things we did that we are not proud of to the good things we have done. We care so much about telling other people the truth because we want them to know they can be trusted and to protect them.
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Post by Kela Fernandez on Apr 12, 2020 19:54:34 GMT
I think that secrets can bring people closer together, but can also destroy friendships, relationships and ones social life. Smaller or bigger secrets that are kept for reasons like protecting someone, surprising them, or temporarily not telling them are secrets that can bring people together. Smaller secrets over time can destroy someone, whether they are telling the secrets or holding them, it can be a lot of pressure not knowing if the other will keep the secret or not. Holding a lot of secrets is also a ton of pressure and if the secrets were told, those could as well destroy ones life considering. I think some can manage their own minds but others not so much, it really is dependent on if they are aware of the things they're not proud of. I think trust ultimately brings us closer together, and when people don't give you the whole truth and you know it, it just makes you feel insignificant and no one wants to feel that way.
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Post by Dane Swofford on Apr 13, 2020 3:46:17 GMT
I think it depends on what the secret is… I believe all secrets are somewhat personal but there’s different levels on what that could mean to any one of us. People always have that excuse of keeping a secret to protect someone else from the truth but you can’t keep something buried forever. The truth will always come out one way or another. Again depending on the secret of course I believe if it’s “deep”/ “serious” then it will eat you inside out overtime. I think we can privately manage what we are not proud of but some people might think that too is keeping a secret. I think we care so much on telling one another the truth/the whole truth because it’s about trust. And it’s really hard in today’s society to find someone to share that trust. Because again I think secrets are personal and if you want to tell someone, then they must mean a lot to you for you to trust them.
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Post by celinah soto on Apr 13, 2020 22:49:42 GMT
i feel like people should keep secrets only if its their personal life or if it could put someone in extreme danger regardless if it's big or small. eventually yes secret's do destroy you over time especially if it involves someone else because it's something the person should know regardless the context of it. yes we can privatley manage things we arent proud of even if its not managed well. we care so much about the truth because its a big part of trust and relationships, being honest.
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Post by Shawn Hammond Block:3 on Apr 16, 2020 16:32:51 GMT
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In my opinion, I think people should not keep secrets because those secrets could change other peoples reactions or even change his entire life, for example, you didn't tell anyone you are in trouble the person would not know that and he can get you in much more trouble and can even get you hurt for the same reason, and also I don't think people should keep any secrets even. though it is big or small, and I think secrets ultimately destroy you overtime for the fact that you could change something in an early phase of the problem and can be fixed. I think we actually can privately manage our own mind and what we think is good or bad and we are the ones deciding if it is good or not but most of the times we take in consideration what the society thinks about us and not what we feel is good or not, and lastly, I think that we care so much about telling the truth for the only reason that they are afraid to be judge for other people or even by your own family.
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Post by Jessica Jimenez on Apr 20, 2020 20:48:34 GMT
I think people shouldn't keep secrets but it also depends on how big or what the secret is. Sometimes it is just best for a secret to be kept because it may probably not hurt the person keeping it but maybe it will her another person. It is the same way around a person who keeps a secret probably does it because they know they can get hurt. Secrets come with consequences and with our human nature we are afraid of facing the consequences. Secrets can eventually break us at some point. It is something that won't ever leave your mind. We all know about the things we are not proud of and we can only change that. For some people, may have problems not being able to recognize their the mistakes they have made and can bring them down at some point. We would always want to tell the truth but are afraid of hurting someone or ourselves.
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Post by Lindsay Garcia on Apr 28, 2020 19:12:30 GMT
I think people can keep secretes when it's like a your personal life, but then like some secretes are just meant to be secretes like if they don't ask about that specific thing then you can ,let it out and not lie about it because it can affect that person the way they may react to it.
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Post by Josh Rodarte on May 11, 2020 21:00:49 GMT
What I believe is that small secrets are okay to tell but the big secrets are to keep to yourself. Secrets can hurt someone as time goes and if you dont got anyone to talk to than it will be hard to let the things out you have inside. When we care to much about the truth we will only be hirting ourselves in the long run cause we are always worried.
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Post by Brooklyn Sandoval on May 14, 2020 4:14:26 GMT
I think certain secrets are okay and help keep peoples sanity. Secrets that affect someone's life and their future definitely shouldn't be kept. For example, if someone is adopted, parents are getting a divorce or someone in the family is terminally ill, those should be told. Keeping these types of secrets could end up making the people they are hiding it from resent them. Big, important secrets are not ones to be kept to themselves. It will slowly eat you up every time you see that person or are reminded of that certain lie. I believe big lies eat people up but small ones do not. For example small lies such as if someones hair looks bad or lying about having gum are lies you can cope with and contain. Small lies such as these are healthy and acceptable. We care about people not only telling the truth but also the whole truth because we care about those people. We want to know the truth so that we can help that person and have a pure, clean slate. In society it is all about knowing someones full true self so that it would allow people to work around these areas or work through them together, making them grow stronger as two people likened to be one whole.
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