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Post by Mr. Malloy on Apr 6, 2020 21:06:11 GMT
In Chapters 13 and 14, we see Amir and Soraya’s relationship grow as they get married. Amir also learns quite a bit about Soraya and her family… much of which he didn’t know prior to their marriage. Clearly, dating and marriage is different in Afghanistan compared to America. In your own opinions, respond to the following sets of questions below:
*What are "the rules" for dating (or whatever you want to call it) for young adults here in America? *In Afghani culture, young men and women can barely look at each other, let alone speak. Do you think that our way too loose? Is their way too strict? Explain.
HW: Please be sure to finish Chapters 13 and 14!!!
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Post by Daniel Broce on Apr 7, 2020 14:27:03 GMT
The rules for dating in america is to talk to each other a lot and be loyal to each other. Their rules for dating is way to strict,The laws about dating are weird because in reality you should be able to date or marry whoever you want rather then someone being set up for you.
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Post by Prasiddha Thapa on Apr 7, 2020 14:47:03 GMT
Actually there are no rules in the United States for dating, you just fall in love talk with each other and that's it. Meanwhile in Afghanistan the rules for dating are way too strict, you can't even see or talk to her as she covers her face or share your thoughts. The marriage is set up and the girls can't even revel their faces to any other men except their guy(after marriage only) which is way strict compared to The States.
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Post by Liam B.A.S on Apr 7, 2020 14:47:09 GMT
Rules for dating in America for young adults really depends on how the individual was raised and what they do or don't believe. While some people in America care about sex before marriage others don't, and based on preferences we choose who we want to date. I think a rule overall in America for dating is communication. I don't think that we're too loose on dating rules, and I think it's hard to judge their rules since it's been the correct thing and accepted rules within their culture for a long time.
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Post by Ezekiel Miller on Apr 7, 2020 14:55:00 GMT
The main set of rules is just to not cheat on the person you are dating, and be honest with them. By comparing out way to Afghani culture, i would say that theirs is way too strict. You should be able to do more than what that consider okay, maybe not be as loose as America, but more freedom in a relationship would definitely be better.
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Post by Lakoda Sherry on Apr 7, 2020 15:00:35 GMT
The rules i guess for dating in America are very different and are much more free from Afghani culture. For example in America usually the parents involvement in the relationship is minimal. When in a relationship the man dose not have to ask the father for permission to date. There are families though who do. In Afghanistan the parents are more involved and the parents have a bigger say in who they date. In America dating dose not always mean that you are going to marry them. I do think that they should loosen up a bit in Afghanistan, i think that a relationship should be based on how they two like each other not how the parents think about it. Our American culture can be a little loose but different house holds have different rules and some could be a little more strict.
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Post by Tyson Pallatt on Apr 7, 2020 15:08:22 GMT
The rules for dating in America are very individual based, you get to decide who you think is attractive and who you want to pursue. However it is very different compared to the Afghan culture, Afghan men and women who are not married cannot speak to each other, this is due to the fact that their parents decide their spouse. Overall I believe the ways of dating in America are very pleasurable. It is totally up to you to find the person you blend well with. This makes for happier couples because they aren't forced to marry like in Afghan culture. With this I personally believe the Afghan way is to strict and forceful.
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Post by Halie Goodsell on Apr 7, 2020 15:12:27 GMT
The rules for dating here in america are kind of different depending on the person. You can either date somebody exclusively or openly date people, if you and another person are only dating each other the rules might be don´t cheat, simple as that. I think their way too strict and that ours is fine because when you are dating someone you should be able to get to know them and have fun with them and make memories, but in Afghanistan it is very strict, for example, parent presence. In america you date whoever you want but in Afghanistan, your parents can pick and choose who they want you to be with.
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Post by Jackson Horton on Apr 7, 2020 15:41:46 GMT
In American culture we tend to be very relaxed about these kid of things in modern times. To us, it doesn't REALLY matter who asks who or whether or not our meeting was allowed or encouraged by our parents. It is quite the opposite in Afghan culture, marriages are arranged, spouses chosen for young men and women by their parents. Islam tends to have a very strict policy on premarital interaction of any kind, not just sex, which in my opinion, is far too strict and does not allow for real healthy relationships to arise like the more free American standard does.
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Post by celinah soto on Apr 7, 2020 15:41:49 GMT
In today's society, the rule for dating is based solely on who the person is because it's different for everyone. I would say the rule that mostly everyone can agree on is the "talking stage" where you're not official with the person but it can either be exclusive to you two or open depending on the two individuals. i don't think that our "dating rules" are too loose besides the fact that hook ups exist. The afghahi dating rules in my opinion are extremely strict and over the top but if it follows their religion or culture there's not much anyone can do to change it.
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Post by Anthony Harris on Apr 7, 2020 16:06:09 GMT
I dont believe that there really are rules for dating in our society. Except for parents make if the rule that you can’t date till a certain age the person really just sees what the want and knows what they want. I believe that having rules for dating is a bad thing because you shouldn’t control love because if it is true love then it’s to strong to be controlled and could lead to bad outcomes
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Post by Fatima Cabrera on Apr 7, 2020 16:13:11 GMT
In America, today rules for dating depend on the person and to another person it doesn't really matter and there aren't any rules. What I mean by this is that a person might view things like the guy should be the one to ask the girl out or to pick them up to go on a date but another person that might not matter at all. I think that there are some things that you need to establish in a relationship but the rest you don't really have to. In my opinion, I don't think our dating rules are too loose but I do think that Afghanistan's dating rules are strict and aren't good fr a relationship but they see it as part of their culture.
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Post by Bryce Wylie on Apr 7, 2020 16:23:31 GMT
There are no strict laws about dating in the united states but there are customs to how people should date, like getting to know each other and liking each other. I think the Afganistan way of dating is too strict, because you have to know the person well in order to be in a relationship with them and it cant be forced. It just has to be natural. It cant be natural when a relationship is forced to happen by the parents.
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Post by Jesus Ballesteros on Apr 7, 2020 16:31:05 GMT
Rules for dating here in America are just being respectful and honest with each other. As teens we're much more open to the idea of having different gender friends as long as it's respecting the relationship. I feel like both our ways of how we view dating is fine, I mean we have different cultures so who are we to say they're too strict, and who are they to say we're too loose. You can have your own opinions on it, but in reality the only ones that decide how dating should go, is the person in the actual relationship and shouldn't be influenced by society.
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Post by Ben Seupaul on Apr 7, 2020 16:31:49 GMT
In the U.S. rules for dating are based on what both people want and believe. I don't think that our way is to loose, and I do think that the afghani way is strict but to them it is normal just like the rules here are normal.
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